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Gratitude – Essential to Happiness and Peace

Gratitude is the Right Attitude

Simply acknowledging things to be thankful for is real a game changer. You will surprise yourself with how your outlook and attitude will improve when you recognize and practice this happiness tool.

I am not an advocate of the ‘It could be worse’ crowd as a way for making you feel good that others are in worse shape.  It takes less energy to remind yourself of the good stuff in your life rather than comparing your lot in life with others.

You are guaranteed to be much happier and peaceful.

“Gratitude is the best attitude.”  ~Author Unknown

Practice Being Thankful

There are no shortages of things to be grateful for.  The problem is we take so much for granted that we overlook them.

You need to be conscious of the good things in your life!

We tend to acknowledge things, like health, only when there is a problem.  How about starting the day thankful you feel good? (Okay, after a few cups of coffee!)

You can see, smell, talk, walk etc.  No small thing at all and it starts the day off in the right frame of mind.

On your way to work or play, take notice of the sun, clouds, trees, flowers, snow.. (opps, went overboard there!)  Being aware of and thankful of nature’s role in our world has a calming effect on our lives.

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”  ~Thornton Wilder

People In Our Lives

Gratitude is a sure relationship builder or saver.

We have many people in our lives, at times they may cause us angst or put a demand upon us.  It is important to balance this ‘heavy’ side of relationships with the other side of it.

First off, no one is perfect, rather than harping on the things a person may do that irritate us, remind yourself of all the good attributes a person may have and be thankful for them.  You will find that the exercise elevates the relationship dramatically and the annoyance factor dissipating.

It IS the Little Things!

Be thankful for little things, we tend to focus on negative things, which create negative vibes. I am sure we all have arrived at work complaining about the traffic, but did we ever use the time to think not of everything we need to get done that day but on someone we love, some pursuit we enjoy, a recent accomplishment….

Being grateful insulates us from the tendency the culture has towards negativity and the focus on what we do not have.

We must practice being grateful and happy with what already have rather than get pulled into the message that we need this and that to be happy.  You will find that being grateful actually enhances your  joy and growth opportunities.

Do it as soon as you finish this article and drop me a line on your thoughts.

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.”  ~Epictetus

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Achieve Success with Lessons Re-learned!

Lessons to Achieve Success

Success is achievable, you can really do anything!

A previous blog

http://danpetrosini.wordpress.com/2011/03/18/confidence-self-esteem-contd/,  explained how breaking your goal down into achievable sections, and building on those sections leads to success and confidence.

Reinforcement

A key component of learning and developing a new skill is reinforcement.  Doing something over and over until you  get it. Sounds logical enough and guaranteed to work!

But you also must use the learning ‘tools’ that apply to the skill desired.  They are called the fundamentals!

Remember the fundamentals and re-visit methods of learning that maybe specific to what you are doing!

We tend to Forget

A recent experience of mine own while learning was revealing.reinforcing the importance of taking it slow, breaking the challenge down.

Faced with a imposing challenge, I became intimidated by the difficulty of the task presented. It seemed I was trying to learn something that just seemed way to advanced had me down.

I had bought into the negative, I can’t do this mentality when I was reminded me to take it slow.

Incredibly simple advise from a friend worked immediately and boosts your confidence.

We Want to Rush it!

Slowing things down, breaking the challenge into parts will make any task easier, here is an example to help illustrate this point-

If trying to hit a baseball at a batting cage, don’t go into the fastest one,  start with the slowest, get acclimated and then move into the next highest and do the same.  It may take a day or week but you will soon be able to hit the fastest!

If two people put the same time into learning how to hita baseball thrown at 60 miles an hour, one who jumped right into the 60 mile an hour cage and the other who progressed from the 20 miles to the 40 then 60 mile an hour cage, who would learn quickest and with the least frustration??

Here are a few more quick examples-

Runners training for a race or marathon, never go full speed the first times out. They gradually increase the speed and length till they find the mazimum speed they can run at and still finish.

Would you teach your child to drive by getting on the highway first day out?

Remember to keep whatever you are doing at a pace you can actually do it.

Lesson Re-learned

Being reminded to slow it down was a revelation in way,  I relearned a critical covenant of success, break the task or challenge down and take it at a proper pace.

I am glad to have been reminded and to share that how to approach a challenge and succeed, is by sticking with the fundamentals!

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Balancing Act?

A bit more on the importance of maintaining a certain balance in life.

First off, while its not the same for everyone, its vital to submerse yourself in different activities/pursuits in order to lead a happy, healthy productive life.

Lets put together a possible list of six ‘buckets’ to draw on that can enhance your life:

Family/Friends, Faith/God, Work/Profession,

Art/Music, Hobbies/Pursuits, Exercise/Sport.

This seems so elementary, and it is but we all somehow struggle to strike a balance that handles our responsibilities and allows for our growth, relief and pleasure.  There have been tons of studies that confirm the basics; happy, well grounded people have a circle of trusted family and friends, a belief in God, hobbies that keep them interested and growing and engage in some physical activity that not only keeps them in good health but blows off some of the stress they experience.

Seems like a lot of things to ‘cram’ into a day already filled with a job and commute!  We’re all pressed for time and thus must ‘force‘ ourselves and schedules to accommodate much needed relief from a life consumed with work.

You’ve got to draft a plan and implement it!

GET SELFISH!

Set aside time for your hobby and stick to it, get God back in your life, get outside and exercise! Start by doing something you enjoy and make it a habit no matter what is happening.

Its not being selfish (with reason) to engage in an activity that gives you joy or health (physical or spiritual), as it makes you better suited to handle your responsibilities.

A quick word on those who think their job is their hobby or outlet, 99 percent of the time its just an excuse! (unless you are an artist and even those talented folks need an outlet)  Getting balanced or centered as the new age folk call it, demands you do something different!  START NOW, its easier than you believe!

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How much is enough???

A great question!  How much time and effort should we devote to the pursuit of material success?  As we move up the economic ladder the pull to continue to the next level is difficult to ignore.  We have been ‘trained’ by a culture of consumption to stay on the ‘treadmill’ and move on up!   I’m not speaking about the people who work long hours, some of them two jobs, to support their families but to those who seem to pursue materialism and ignore the ‘costs’  A good example would be a mother who decides to go to work to get the BMW,  leaving her kids without proper supervision.  Is that really worth it?

Life is short and unpredictable and often we find ourselves saying ‘when Ihave more money I will do this or that, or when I have the luxury of taking time I will do this.  Let’s face it, unless you are wildly successful, you rarely will feel you have enough.  Therefore you must look deep, being true to yourself, to make decisions that the culture generally frown upon.  Haven’t we all ‘criticized’ what seem like crazy decision by some?  “Did you hear about Joe?, He left that job at IBM to move to Texas and open a bakery?  What is he nutz?  His wife must be pissed!”

If you want to do something, don’t wait till its too late.  Its a cliche I realize but so true. We must find the proper balance between a comfortable life and one that is made uncomfortable and unsatisfying by its single minded pursuit of materialism.  I am no socialist and am not suggesting there is anything wrong with  material success in fact i applaud it, but we must strike a balance to be happy.

Balance, balance, balance!

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